Jacob Lesson 16 – A Harvest Of Shame

(Read Genesis 34:1-10)

Discussion points

        1. As a young teenager and the only daughter of the family, Dinah’s desire to go out and socialize with the daughters of the land was understandable but unwise because she went unescorted and became vulnerable. (v1)
        2. Lustful desires will always lead to sin. The Prince of the land (Shechem), saw Dinah and became emotionally and lustfully attracted to her which resulted in him taking advantage of her by force and raping her. (v2)
        3. To allow unsupervised socialization in an immoral community was a failure of responsibility on the part of Jacob and Leah. Jacob’s lack of attention and protection was partially at fault in this tragedy. His own compromise made him less able to stand up to his own children and guide them as he should. (v1-2).
        4. Sex does not precede Marriage, as Christians, it should be the other way round, true love is not forcible or self-gratifying – it is patient and kind and seeks the consent of the other party too. (v3 – v4)
        5. Shechem showed no remorse for what he had done, perhaps he did not see anything wrong in defiling and violating the young girl as it was the norm in his community. All he wanted was to make things right by getting the consent of his father to marry Dinah. (v4)
        6. Jacob was not provoked to take the law into his own hands, even though he heard of the indiscretion toward Dinah. He would wait and talk to her brothers, who were, also, children of Leah. They would have a say in what action they would take against Shechem. (v5)
        7. Jacob’s sons were far more offended and outraged than their father Jacob who had a passive response to the whole event for reasons best known to him alone. Jacob’s sons were grieved over what had happened to their sister because it was their responsibility to protect her. (v7)
        1. The Israelites were under obligation to God to live holy lives, because they were the covenant people. What had happened to Dinah brought extra shame and disgrace to them as a people. In fact, this act was not just against Dinah, but Israel’s family. Jacob’s seed of disobedience in not going all the way to Bethel resulted in a harvest of shame (v7)
        2. Shechem’s father, Hamor had gone to Jacob to try to keep down trouble and to purchase Dinah for Shechem. This was the custom in the land in those days. The fathers of the bride and groom to be would strike a bargain, and make the arrangements for the wedding. (v8)
        3. Hamor did not apologize for what his son had done either, rather he made a deal for inter-marriage between the two tribes and also an economic alliance, but God said, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Hamor was purposing a peace agreement where Israel’s family would live in the land of Hamor’s family. Peace is difficult when two families, so different, try to live in a small area.


The Price of Disobedience

  1. Jacob chose a place to live for all the wrong reasons. He wanted to be close to the city (Genesis 33:18), though the city had a strong and ungodly influence. God called him to Bethel, and Jacob’s poor choice of a place to live left his family open to ungodly influences. (Ephesians 5:3-, 1 Corinthians 15:33)
  2. When God’s children intermingle with those of the world, there are dangers. Dinah, the daughter of Leah and Jacob, heads out to see the other women of the territory. While she’s out, Shechem rapes her. Dinah should not have ventured out on her own. She knew these people were not living the type of holy life that was required of her people. Dinah’s curiosity costed her greatly. (Hebrews 13:4)
  3. As for the young man named Shechem, his soul was strongly attracted to Dinah and he even spoke kindly to her. Yet we cannot say he loved her, because he violated her. It was a soulish love Shechem had for Dinah, not a spiritual, godly, or good kind of love. He was a self-centered man who only loved her for what she could be for him and give to him, not for what he could be and give to her. True love is patient and kind, it does not dishonor others, (1 Corinthians 13:4-8NIV)
  1. Jacob and his sons were naturally very upset and indignant. Men are supposed to protect their women and not doing so implies some serious dishonor. (Genesis 2:15,1 Peter 3:7)
  2. Jacob’s refusal to do what is right in regard to his family will encourage two of his sons to do something, something terrible in response. When God-appointed heads do not take appropriate leadership, it creates a void, which is often filled sinfully. However, Scripture holds fathers responsible for the protection, training, and discipleship of their children. (Eph. 6:4, 1 Thess. 2:11, Neh. 4:14, matt.18:6)
  3. Shechem was a prince, so he should have had more honor than to do something like this, especially to a guest in his country. Had he thought at all, he should have realized that this would cause a great rift between his people and Dinah’s people. Rape was punishable by death in those days. If it occurred with the girl’s permission, they were both stoned to death. The fact that he took her, indicated that it was against her will. (Deut. 22:25-27)
  4. Hamor did not apologize for the terrible thing his son had done. He believed that the offer to marry her would be sufficient for the crime. He even went so far as to offer his daughters in marriage to Jacob’s sons as well as a proposal of an economic advantage of an alliance, in essence, asking both tribes to become one. This is exactly what the world wants from the church today. (2 Corinthians 6:17, Romans 12:2)
  5. The Canaanite’s proposal to marry the daughter of Jacob was a dangerous challenge to the covenant family. Irresponsible intermarriage with the Canaanites could prove especially harmful for this family with such an important destiny in God’s redemptive plan. (2 Corinthians 6:14)
  1. This occurrence serves to illustrate the low standard of morals prevalent among the Canaanites as we also see in our world today. Any unattended female could be raped, and in the transactions that ensue neither father nor son feel the need of apologizing for or excusing what had been committed.” (Proverbs 14:34, Romans 1:18-19)
  2. Self-control is a great virtue in life. If we let our desires lead our decisions, our lives can quickly spin out of control. This was the experience of Shechem though he had no excuse for his act, exercising some self-control would have averted tragedy. (Pro. 25:27-28, Titus 2:1-12, 1 Corinthians 10:13).


  1. Father, grant me the grace not to compromise, no matter what. I desire to obey you completely Lord, help me to abide and hold on to your words in Jesus name.
  2. Father Lord, in every way I have strayed away from your perfect and complete plan for me, relocate me back under your covering.
  3. Father, help our children in FA not to fall into the hands of evil men and devourers, Keep them from every trap of the wicked in Jesus mighty name.
  4. Father Lord, abort every scheme of the enemy concerning me, let none of their plots come to term IJN.
  5. We come against any form of violation or defilement in our destinies and that of our loved ones, we declare that our destinies will not be buried, will not be stolen, will not be truncated, will not be defiled, and terminated in Jesus mighty name.
  6. Father Lord, we pray for your help and guidance to train up our children in the way of the Lord. We ask for help as parents to bring up our children tenderly with lovingkindness in the discipline and instruction of the lord. Father, please help us not to fail in our duties as parents.
  7. Rid our children of any ungodly associations Lord, we pray that their ways will be pleasing to you.
  8. Balm of Gilead, we ask you to heal everyone connected to us that is suffering from any form of abuse – Physically, Spiritually, mentally, sexually, and emotionally in Jesus name.
  9. Oh Lord, separate me from dubious, unrepentant people in Jesus name.
  10. Wherever we appear in the remaining days of this year, let your presence be with us, O Lord. Don’t let us or any member of our family walk into trouble. Preserve and protect our going out and coming in from this day forward and forevermore. Amen

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